Self compassion is a bit of a radical concept for a lot of us. Being nice to yourself? What?
However, as crazy as it sounds, being nice to yourself is often key in making the behaviour change process as smooth as possible. With self compassion, when things do not go to plan (as they often do!) it is no longer seen as a mistake, but a valuable learning experience that is a part of your life as a whole.
So why is it important to include self compassion when we’re on the journey of repairing our relationship with food and our body?
Diet culture constantly has us hating on ourselves, whether it be for our body shape, our body size, our food choices or our eating behaviours. Sitting in a state of shame and guilt often leads to unhelpful thoughts which are unpleasant and life consuming as they are, but can also progress to eating and other behaviours that feel out of our control. Introducing some self compassion helps us to accept ourselves as we are, learning experiences and all, which puts us in a better place to reflect, learn and move on from “mistakes” and live with ourselves, our bodies and food in a much more peaceful way!
“Instead of mercilessly judging and criticizing yourself for various inadequacies or shortcomings, self-compassion means you are kind and understanding when confronted with personal failings – after all, who ever said you were supposed to be perfect?” – Kristin Neff (www.self-compassion.org)
If you are struggling with relationship with food and eating and are ready to make a change, it may be the right time for you to seek the assistance of a qualified HAES, Non-Diet Approach dietitian to help guide you through the process back to a place of peace and confidence with food and your body.